Will We Collide? The Chemistry of Human Connection
October 7, 2024
Writer: Victoria Pescod
Editor: Ava Londa
I like to think about humans like atoms. We move through life, constantly interacting with the world around us—sometimes with purpose, sometimes by chance. But, just as with atoms, not every encounter leads to change. These tiny particles hold immense potential to connect and create. In the intricate dance of chemistry, collisions happen constantly, yet only those with the right energy and alignment create transformation. This idea—the Theory of Collisions—reminds us that even in the randomness of life, there are moments when things click, where meaningful connections are made, and real change begins. This applies to humans as well, our day-to-day turns into more than fleeting moments, they become powerful and purposeful interactions. But it only happens when we align with ourselves and our goals just the right way.
In chemistry, atoms need a certain amount of energy to overcome the initial barrier that prevents them from reacting—activation energy. Without this energy, atoms will simply bounce off each other, and no reaction will take place. The same holds true for us. Achieving something meaningful in life requires effort, motivation, and determination. Without pushing beyond the barriers of comfort and inertia, nothing significant can happen. Our 'activation energy' is what drives us to keep moving forward.
When we pursue our goals, whether personal or professional, we’re gathering energy. It’s the late nights, perseverance in the face of challenges, and the discipline to keep moving when things get difficult. But, having energy alone isn’t enough. In a chemical reaction, even atoms with high energy need to collide in the right orientation to create something new. There are far more orientations that fail to produce reactions than ones that succeed. There is no straight path to life, we may have to try a million times before we are victorious.
In life, it’s not enough to hustle aimlessly—we need direction. We must channel our energy toward our passions and goals. When we focus on what truly matters, our efforts lead to real growth, success, and meaningful change. There are times when the weight of my classes feels overwhelming, and the light at the end of the tunnel seems distant. I’ve had to sacrifice weekends and time with friends to stay on top of my studies, which can feel discouraging. In those times, I remind myself that sacrifices are part of the journey toward my dreams. I’m not hustling aimlessly—every hour I invest is a step closer to my dreams.
Every challenge you face, every obstacle that tests your resolve, adds to your energy reserve. And when you build up enough momentum and stay aligned with your goals, opportunities begin to appear—like a perfect chemical reaction waiting to happen.
Alignment is just as crucial as energy. If we’re not in sync with who we are and what we want, our efforts may feel wasted. Being "properly oriented" means staying true to ourselves—knowing our values, our passions, and our long-term aspirations. When we live authentically and direct our focus toward what resonates with us, the connections we make and the paths we follow become more purposeful and rewarding.
In relationships, our interactions, like chemical collisions, are shaped by the energy we bring and how aligned we are with our true selves. When we are in tune with who we are and what we want, we create powerful, purposeful connections that guide us toward what’s meant for us. Just as atoms need sufficient energy to create a reaction, we too need emotional, mental, and physical effort to bring about meaningful change in our lives. Being true to yourself is like ensuring proper orientation in chemistry. The more you understand your values, desires, and goals, the better your chances are of connecting with the right people and opportunities.
As a teenager, I often found myself measuring my worth by the attention I received from others, especially from guys. Deep down, I always craved a connection that went beyond the surface—a bond that felt real, something that honored who I truly was. But in a world that celebrates momentary encounters, I sometimes felt like I was out of place like my desire for something deeper was somehow wrong or unattainable.
There were times when I looked around and questioned myself. I’d wonder, ‘Why hasn’t it happened to me? What’s wrong with me? Am I not enough—am I not pretty enough, funny enough, skinny enough, smart enough?’ The weight of those questions would weigh down on me, eroding my sense of self-worth.
Only now, I’ve learned that I don’t have to settle. I’ve come to realize that it’s not about being enough for someone else—it’s about being true to myself, even when it feels lonely or uncertain. Like molecules in a collision, the key isn’t just in making contact; it’s in aligning with the right energy and orientation. I’ve stopped asking what’s wrong with me and started understanding that the connections that matter won’t force me to compromise who I am. By holding on to my values and not settling for less, I’m choosing to wait for the ‘collision’ that feels right. It may take time, but I know that when I do collide with the right person, it will be because I stayed true to my path.
Life, like chemistry, is a series of collisions—some that spark change, others that fizzle out. But even in the moments that don’t lead to immediate transformation, there is growth. The key is to remain in the right vibration, aligned with your values and vision so that you attract the opportunities, people, and experiences that will help you evolve. Not every collision will lead to a reaction, but every step forward brings you closer to creating the reality you want.
